Wednesday, August 09, 2017

Burned Out

At the end of June my wife had elective surgery to remove some organs that were causing more hardship than they were worth. It was a decision multiple years in the making and not made lightly, but the hope was that short term pain would be returned in long term gains.

In this instance, short term is 6-8 weeks recovery time from a successful operation (which it was).

I was perhaps a little naive about what that time period was going to be like. Being told she could not lift anything heavier than 10 lbs for about 2 months didn't prepare me for the absolute incapacitation she actually found herself in due to pain and discomfort. She can't be on her feet too long, can't sit up straight at a table, can't drive, etc.

As a result of this inconvenience at lot more responsibility has fallen on me (and a little bit to the 3 boys in our house) including all my jobs I was responsible for before the surgery, and a lot of jobs that were not in my area of concern like laundry, mopping, vacuuming, driving kids to dance classes, groceries, etc. Its not that I was incapable of doing them before (I am a modern man after all), its just that my wife as a stay at home mom had more time during the week while I was at work to deal with those jobs.

Anyway, I'm very busy both on weeknights and weekends. My downtime has shrunk and it was not very generous before. On the upside, my wife praises how I am working so hard and taking it in stride and not complaining.

On the downside, however, I am burnt out. Emotionally and mentally wiped almost every day.

Right now its hard to log into EVE and have to deal with other players, even if they are friends and allies and good people. Its hard to get the energy to do anything more complicated and demanding than Clash Royale.

I need a vacation.

Fortunately, I have one planned in a couple weeks where I take the family camping. Unfortunately, if my wife is still in pseudo traction it could be an exhausting trip.

All of this to say that I'm sorry the blog has been light on meaty topics this summer. Unavoidable circumstances have put me at a disadvantage for writing engaging posts. I'm hoping once my wife returns to some semblance of functional that I will as well.


  1. Take care and lots of love to your wife and your awesome boys.

  2. No worries! Take care of what matters most. And keep up the great work -- both in New Eden and in RL!

  3. Praying things will get better soon! Meanwhile, my wife and I enjoy Hay Day :)

  4. Hang in there and do what you have to do to take care of your family. You are an awesome guy and this too shall pass. Keep the courage!

  5. Anonymous7:21 pm

    Hey man, take care of yourself and your family. And by the way, it is ok to ask for help. Family, neighbors, friends. That's their job, they will do it gladly.

  6. Yes, like everyone else mentioned...just hang in there. This is but a short window of time and you're being the husband that you should be first and foremost. Also...I love Clash Royale!